The Editor's Corner

Wedding #9: Bled, Slovenia

Travel Free,How can I travel for FreeI started traveling for real in 1985 by driving the coastlines of California, Oregon and Washington to Mexico and then up to Canada. A buddy and I fresh out of high school were looking to drink beer and chase women. Not the most noble of travel plans, but we had an adventure. I met tons of new faces, had tons of new experiences (a few dangerous ones) and I learned tons about life, which allowed me to learn tons about myself.

Since then, I have been to over 80 countries around the world. Little has changed, although my noble plans lean toward good photography and having new experiences with my wife. Here are a few things about me you might enjoy knowing.

100 Weddings in 100 Countries

Speaking of my wife, she and I are in the process of getting married 100 times in 100 countries. So far we have taken the plunge 19 times in 15 countries. Seriously, one of the best ideas I have ever come up with for relationships. My wife loves it! Guys, take notes. Really, do this for your wife and she will make your life easier. My favorite wedding was a medieval wedding in San Marino. It was a recreated Vulgar Latin wedding ceremony from the 15th century. The ceremony featured 50 people in handmade costumes. It was witness by 150 Korean tourists in the main castle in San Marino. In the end I was knighted as a “cabellero di san marino.” You can find out more at In The Know Bride.

10,000 Miles with my Dead Father’s Ashes

It took seven years and weekly Thursday night, writers’ group meetings in my living room but I finished my memoir.

“I stood in the living room in bare feet with the cold, hardwood floor beneath me, and the phone’s springy chord wrapped around my knuckle. I waited for and expected this call for years. Her unfamiliar voice told me my father was dead.

The sobs came in spite of everything he taught me. She continued, “Your dad wants to ‘return home’ to Spain. To be scattered off the coast of Cadiz, while Ave Maria is sung. It was his last wish.” Without any sense of irony in her voice, I heard the subtle ring of Dad’s colossal bullshit.

Even through my tears, even though we had not spoken in years, I knew my father’s line of nonsense.

Dad wasn’t from Spain. He had never left America. My father was a con man who sold oil wells that didn’t belong to him, and who left my mother and me on welfare. Ave Maria was just the cherry on top. He was a con man right to the very end. And while I cried, I wondered what his angle was.

Beyond the absurdity of his final request, there were a few truths I understood as I hung up the phone. He was my unreliable, often crappy father and still my hero.

I didn’t care that the voice on the other end of the receiver was his seventh wife or what Spanish sunset he needed to see through her eyes. Scattering him was my birthright and I knew that he, quite literally, would fall into my lap one day.

It was my job to take my father and pour him into the waters of Cadiz, Spain, in spite of his best efforts to make me hate him. Because, like it or not, our personal history danced in my mind between the painfully laughable and cartoonishly unfinished, the thought of him still made me want to tell bullshit stories and swill beer just like him. And for many years I nailed it.

He did fall in my lap and I carried him across Spain by car, train, and backpack.  This was our swan song “buddy picture” come to life, except that one of the buddies was dead… and then I lost Dad’s ashes a half a mile from our appointment with Mediterranean Sea. I stood in the middle of a windy cobblestone street in Old Town Cadiz feeling like I had just been kicked in the stomach, wondering what the fuck just happened. Not just in that moment but the forty years prior.

This is a wild eyed history of secret family stories that includes 50 stolen cars , sacred African fertility dolls, a Darth Vader mask-wearing junkie, a mysterious secret family, a Playboy magazine found in a sewer hidden next to toilet paper wrapped downers, a Vegas hooker with one impressive breast, a hero’s journey, and traveling across the world with a black jug that contained my father in my rolling suitcase. 10,000 Miles with My Dead Father’s Ashes is a cross between Jeanette Walls’ The Glass Castle and J. R. Moehringer, the writer of The Tender Bar.

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So, what is the Editor’s Corner?

I am going to talk about travel. And I am going to talk about life, which for me centers around love, lifestyle and legacy — a phrase I learned from my wife. The love part goes beyond regular definitions of love. Lifestyle is about how I live my life, what are my goals and how to achieve them. The legacy part is what imprint do I want to leave on my friends, family and those whose path I cross. How do I want to be remembered. I suppose this leaves the door open wide to talk about whatever it is that I want. In the pages of ITKT, I talk about how I believe that we are supposed to know each other, building a world community. While my aim will be to offer useful travel information, but I also want to practice what I preach. I want to make myself available to be known by you. Hopefully, you love it. If not, we still have 189 countries worth exploring on the many pages of ITKT.

Teaching you how to travel better and cheaper… sometimes free!

The last thing I want to share is that after 17 years in the travel industry, writing for the travel trade as well as the consumer, I have learned a thing or two about travel. If you want a first row seat on this subject I suggest you join our newsletter. Signups can be found on most pages on this site with the free bonus of my ebook, the #1 Secret to Free Travel, that teaches you how I travel for free!

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